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Confused🤷♀️ about where you even need boundaries?
Don’t worry – my step-by-step guide teaches you the 7 types of boundaries and the emotional and physical cues that signal they’re needed.
“I was feeling powerless, tense and drained in some of my relationships until I had a coaching session with Laura. She listened with warmth, compassion and empathy to my dilemma then helped me recognise where and how I could set boundaries.”
– Donna
“I absolutely loved working with Laura. So kind, warm and non judgemental. She really helped me work on my body based approaches to boundary setting and self- advocacy. Would highly recommend.”
– Natalie
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– Samantha
Most self-help gurus ignore the role the nervous system plays in making boundaries stick.
Yet it’s your nervous system that determines how you’ll react to enforcing them.
You see… when your brain and body have been trained to associate self-advocacy with danger, it ain’t so simple to “just say no”.
Because you can’t override fear, or panic, or people pleasing with words – you need new experiences instead. Ones that teach your brain that setting boundaries isn’t dangerous to you anymore.
That’s where somatic work comes in.
Your nervous system delivers information to your brain through sensations.
So you need to feel what safety feels like when you’re asserting yourself. And give your brain updated evidence that matches that.
Think of it this way:
Since you were a child, your brain has been collecting thousands of memories where asserting yourself lead to consequences like punishment, rejection, or retaliation.
So your genius biology developed behaviours to help protect you from dealing with those types of consequences.
Like getting defensive the moment someone questions your decision. Or over-explaining every decision until you talk yourself out of it.
So to undo decades of programming, you’ve got to rewire it bit by bit.
You start small, with repetitive low-stakes situations that won’t overwhelm your nervous system.
Bottom up techniques, not just topdown ones.
So your body starts to recognise, “oh, having standards doesn’t actually ruin my life!”
And slowly, your deep-seated hypervigilance begins to settle.
That’s exactly what my approach teaches you — how to gently work with your nervous system to build the capacity to honour your needs.
Because when your body finally feels comfortable to have boundaries, they stop being something you have to fight for, or avoid, or even give up. And start being something you naturally embody instead.
Start building your somatic toolkit
Familiarise yourself with this work by reading these guides below:
What a Somatic Trauma Informed Coach Actually Does
Read why talk therapy alone isn’t enough to get you to the finishing line. And how body-based approaches work better for survivors. (You can also read the difference between somatic coaching and therapy here).
The Secret to Setting Boundaries After Narcissistic Abuse (And Actually Sticking to Them)!
Discover the three step process that makes boundaries stick—plus body-based exercises to help you feel your “no” instead of forcing it.
3 Nervous System Reset Exercises for Women Who Can’t Sit Still Long Enough to Meditate!
Calm your inner chatter without forcing yourself to meditate. Learn 3 simple techniques that fit around your lifestyle and can be done when you’re already doing other things.